Barry began attending Durham Evangelical Church while he was a student at UNH. During that time DEC was located at McConnell hall at UNH, a small church with many needs. Almost as soon as he began attending, he began serving. “My first service at the church was, actually, in the nursery. Which I was reintroduced to the concept of babies. It had been a while. It was probably the first time I had to actually change a diaper.”
After his 4th year at UNH, Barry married his high school sweetheart, Claire. She also began attending DEC and soon after they were married they began serving on the worship team. “That was funny, because we were really bad.” Claire said with laughter. “There may be a heart there, but there may have not been the appropriate gifts…” Barry added. The church was small at the time and there were not many people available to help out in the different areas of needs throughout the church. So, Barry and Claire decided they would help where they saw needs.
Serving at a church means being a part of a community. Barry and Claire said this had a big impact on their serving over the years. They could recall several times where being a part of that community helped them through the difficult times. “If you have a community that is willing to serve, you are much more likely to stay with it. The Christian life is a marathon. It’s a walk that you need to have partners in. You need to have people that are walking with you.”
During their service to DEC, Barry says that the hardest part of serving is the relationships. “The most difficult thing I think people have to face in ministry is not the task they have to do, but the relationships in there. We are a community that needs to live together when we serve. So, I think the most difficult things in service are always when you are having those struggles to serve together. DEC has really got leadership that are very sensitive to that. If you think about serving, you know, I think one of the key things is your hearts position. There also has to be this ability to be flexible. Don’t take yourself so seriously. You may have this real passion for how God is going to do things and how you see stuff, but the reality is so do other people. “ He believes that there is joy in serving when you can prioritize what matters. “When you can take the focus off of yourself and see what God is doing, that’s when you can really enjoy things.”
Over their 30 years of service to DEC, Barry and Claire have served in the nursery, worship team, college ministry, children’s ministry, youth group, men’s & women’s ministry, marriage mentoring, and MOPS. They have also led community groups, and Barry has been a member of the elder board. During these years of service Barry says that there have been joys and heartaches, but they still serve to see people grow in their faith. “At the real end of it, it’s when you see people grow and you see them make steps of obedience. You see a disciple grow. You see somebody who now makes choices and follows Christ on their own volition. You know that God is doing something in their lives. When you see people growing in the faith, in ways that are not just words, but in ways that are really making decisions for Christ, I think that’s what really makes it worth it.”